Most drivers agree that courtesy is lacking on our
roadways -- whether between operators of cars, cars and pedestrians or
bicycles, between motorcycles and cars, or trucks and cars. I've often
wondered whether the relative anonymity we have when driving leads us
to behave in ways we'd never consider if we were meeting another person
face to face.
But courtesy is important -- not only in terms of
interpersonal conflicts with other drivers and the problems those cause,
but also in terms of keeping traffic moving. Here's an example: you're
on a freeway, with three lanes of traffic that are narrowing to two lanes
just ahead. Do you encounter drivers who stay as close as they can to
the rear bumper of the vehicle ahead, so the folks in the right lane cannot
merge? Have you done the same thing to others? I know there are times
when my little green attitude "devil" takes over. The result
is a sure bottleneck and backed-up traffic. Yet if even one driver allows
someone to merge in front of them, it often sets the example for others
to follow -- and traffic keeps flowing. Is there some big harm in letting
someone merge into your lane in front of you? The only real cost is a
split second of driving time -- and you lose more than that if traffic
chokes to a stop.
It's important to be courteous -- but extending courtesy
to others must be done with conscious thought for unintended consequences.
Here's a real world example: You are sitting in traffic, waiting for a
signal light. You are in the middle of three lanes. A vehicle on your
right wants to cut across traffic from a driveway and make a turn into
traffic going the opposite direction as you. The driver in the right lane
stops and leaves room for them to come across -- and you do the same,
waving the person across in front of you. YOUR thought in waving them
across your lane is to let them know YOU will allow them to cross in front
of you, but in their mind, you are telling them it is safe to cross. They
do not see another vehicle coming down the left lane at 45 mph -- and
perhaps that driver doesn't see them either -- since they are hidden from
view by your vehicle and the other traffic.
In the past fifteen years, I have seen two serious
collisions happen EXACTLY this way (and one near miss). In one of them,
I was driving the vehicle that was oncoming in the lane and got hit by
the crossing traffic (and yes, I should have seen it coming). The other
occurred three cars in front of me when others motioned a crossing driver
through traffic. The near miss was a high school boy, jaywalking between
cars instead of using the crosswalk at the intersection nearby, and a
motorist stopped short and waved him across -- where he was almost hit
by another vehicle flying down the turn lane approaching the intersection.
He was so shaken he collapsed on the sidewalk. Another example is when
a driver unnecessarily and abruptly stops for a jaywalker or an animal,
and forces someone following behind (who isn't expecting the sudden stop)
to take dangerous evasive action.
When being courteous, think about the big picture,
and make sure that what you do doesn't contribute to a dangerous situation
for the other guy.
Keep the shiny side up!
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41: Share the Road With Bicyclists
Rule 43: Don't Try To Make Up Time When You're
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