Your schedule seems very strong. It is wonderful you are adding activities for your daughter. In Seattle, it is good to see the Space Needle and also Pike Place Market. In Portland, you should go to Oregon Zoo or look at art in the Portland Art Museum. Cannon Beach has very nice views, and it is important to visit Tillamook for cheese and ice cream. The Redwoods look amazing, and Bandon is famous for its attractive landscapes and beaches. San Francisco has many activities, even if you are there for a short time. When in Carmel, it is essential to go on the 17-Mile Drive and take some time to look at the art galleries and stores. For the celebration of your birthday, Cambria is a beautiful place, and it's possible to go see Hearst Castle. Have a good journey!